Don't let your recent divorce ruin your holidays

There are many fun things to do in Virginia during the holidays. With Thanksgiving just around the corner and many other special occasions on the horizon during the 2019 holiday season, you might be among those who are already planning their holiday schedules. If you also happen to be a parent who recently divorced, you might be feeling a bit worried or anxious about this first, post-divorce holiday season, especially regarding your co-parenting arrangement.

Like all good parents, you want what is best for your kids. The problem is that you and your ex might not always agree on how to interpret that. In fact, if you and your co-parent don't really get along too well, there's a chance that disputes or even legal problems might interrupt your holidays. That's why it's so important to build a strong support network from the start.

Agree to keep priorities straight

You and your ex can save a lot of time and avoid some headaches if you agree up front to keep your children's best interests in mind. You should also agree to amicably discuss any disagreements that arise. If either of you has entered a new romantic relationship or has remarried, such circumstances can spark tremendous stress during the holidays.

You may not want to be married to your co-parent anymore; however, you will always have your children as a common bond. Therefore, the more willing to cooperate and compromise you both are, the likelier you and your kids will be able to enjoy the holidays without complications.

Get it all in writing

It might seem tedious to consider writing out a holiday schedule in fine detail for the entire year. However, it's one of the easiest ways to avoid contention and legal problems after divorce. In fact, you can incorporate your holiday plans into your co-parenting agreement then get the court to approve it.

You might want to agree to post your schedules in conspicuous spots in both homes so that you, your children and your ex have all information available at a quick glance. This way, if you believe the kids are supposed to spend Thanksgiving with you but your ex is saying it's the other way around, you need only consult the master schedule to clarify the issue.

When amicable discussion isn't working

Perhaps, you have a court order in place but your ex refuses to obey it. Maybe your employer changed your work schedule and you need to re-arrange the plans you already agreed to because you won't be available when you said you would. It's common for minor issues to arise that delay or cause a bit of stress during the holidays.

If you're not able to find a solution, you might want to reach out for support. The court often intervenes to help parents whose former spouses try to undermine their parental rights or keep them from being able to see their children during the holidays. A judge can also hold a parent in contempt for disregarding a court order.

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